Confidence Conundrum


Confidence is the most important weapon that a person possesses and it can help them venture new heights in their life. When your child becomes self-confident and is able to display it in their daily lives, almost half of your problems in raising a child vanish. Children with low confidence levels have behavioral problems and are often victims of bullying all through their childhood and teenage years which can adversely affect their learning capacity and mental growth curve.

However, children are not born with confidence and thus parents have an important duty to try and equip their child with all confidence they are going to need in their future. Here are few ways in which you can help your child develop their confidence skills as suggested by experts:

1. Remember the mistakes that your parents committed and try to rectify them in bringing up your child.

2. Give your child positive feedback during their formative years.

3. Do not overlook the faults in your child but make them aware of it so that they can improve upon it themselves.

4. Make your child feel special every day and do not ever let them feel unloved . A mother’s love can work wonders for a child’s self esteem and make them feel more suited and accepted in society.

5. Helping your child develop talents and acquire skills is part of discipline. If you recognize an ability in your child that he doesn’t, encourage him. Strike a balance between pushing and protecting. Both are necessary. If you don’t encourage your child to try, his skills don’t improve, and you’ve lost a valuable confidence builder.

6. Sometime during your parenting career you may run into the idea that a young child should be exposed to children with different values so that he can choose for himself. It’s like sending a ship to sea without a rudder or a captain. Only by chance will that ship reach a desirable destination. Children are too valuable to be left to chance.

7. Schools can be hazardous to a child’s emotional health. To raise a confident child, school choice (if you have one) needs to be carefully considered. The connected child who enters the school arena with peers from various upbringings and degrees of attachment will have a set of expectations that he may not find at school. Children meet the challenges of a new social group with different behaviors. If a child is securely attached to his caregivers and armed with a strong self-image, he may not be disturbed by these different behaviors.

8. Children need jobs. One of the main ways children develop self-confidence and internalize values is through helping maintain the family living area, inside and out. Raise a confident child by giving them household duties. This helps them feel more valuable and channels their energy into desirable behavior and teaching skills.

9. Raise a confident child by teaching them to express their feelings comfortably. Expressing feelings comfortably does not mean the child is free to explode at every emotional twinge, but rather develops a comfortable balance between expressing and controlling feelings. She should eventually be able to keep a lid on her emotions when needed, but not so tightly that she can’t remove the lid in a “safe” setting, such as exercising (i.e., run like mad to blow off steam), or with a trustworthy friend. All babies freely express their feelings. Maturity develops through years of learning how to stay calm in difficult situations.

Hope this helped you to organize your priorities where your child is concerned so that you can raise them into cool, calm and confident adults ready to tackle life.